More Ontarians than ever are navigating the family court system without a lawyer. Whether because of cost, availability, or personal preference, being a self-represented litigant — also called an SRL — is increasingly common. Knowing what to expect makes an enormous difference. This guide walks you through the basics of Ontario family court so you can walk in prepared, composed, and focused on what matters most.
Understand the Difference Between Court Streams
Ontario family law cases can be heard in the Ontario Court of Justice or the Superior Court of Justice, depending on what is being decided. The Ontario Court of Justice handles matters like custody, access, and child support but cannot deal with divorce or property division — that requires the Superior Court. Most self-represented litigants start in the Ontario Court of Justice.
The First Court Date: What Actually Happens
Your first appearance is usually a Case Conference or a First Appearance Court date. This is not a trial — it is a meeting to understand the issues and explore whether anything can be resolved without going further. Come prepared with a clear, factual summary of your situation, what you are asking for, and why. Judges respond to organized, focused, child-centred arguments.
Know Your Forms
Ontario family court runs on forms. The Form 8 Application, Form 35.1 Affidavit in Support of Claim for Custody or Access, financial statements, and affidavits are among the most common. Every document must be properly completed, sworn or affirmed, and served on the other party. Mistakes in paperwork can cause delays or weaken your case. One Stop Therapy Shop provides legal document support for self-represented litigants — we help you get the paperwork right. Free legal information is also available through Legal Aid Ontario and courthouse Family Law Information Centres (FLICs).
How to Conduct Yourself in Court
Arrive early, dress professionally, address the judge as "Your Honour," speak only when asked, and never interrupt. Bring organized copies of all documents — for the judge, the other party, and yourself. Stay calm, focused on facts, and centred on your child's needs. Judges are watching not just what you say, but how you carry yourself throughout the entire process.
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Disclaimer: This blog is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Always verify requirements with a licensed Ontario family lawyer or at ontario.ca/familylaw.